Dec 15, 2016

How we found Our Song

When we got married, we didn’t have a song. Nothing fit. I asked my parents how they decided on their song and they said that the words just fit them, and it made them both feel loved. I asked friends how they got their songs. Some said that was the song on the radio during their first kiss, or a song that played in the restaurant where they got engaged, or a song they both loved.

A year later, we still didn’t have a song, but we wanted one desperately. Well, maybe I was the one that was weirdly obsessed with it, but Cameron was a little perplexed as well that we couldn’t find “our song.”

We listened to all sorts of love songs. “My Best Friend.” “Remember When.” “Forever and Ever, Amen.” “Keeper of the Stars.” “Someday.” All great songs. But none that spoke to both of us.

Cameron’s mom plays the violin, and while we were visiting for Christmas one year, she got out her violin and played for us. One of the songs she played was Ashokan Farewell, by Jay Ungar. It is beautiful! I was instantly in love. So when we got back home, the first thing I did was head to the internet to find it and play it.

We found it on Amazon and at the time it was the same price to get the full album of songs as it was to get that one song (go figure), so we bought the whole album and started playing it in the background.

A few songs in, Cameron and I both stopped and looked up. We’d never heard it before, but there playing from our computer speakers was our song. We’d found it!

“The Lover’s Waltz” has no words, and yet it expresses our emotions and love perfectly. Every time we dance together to that song, waltzing around the dance floor, it adds another layer of memories and meaning to the song.

To us the song is about love, about trust, about working together, about finding home in each other’s arms, about harmony, and about simplicity. It’s everything we want from our marriage, and everything we are striving for. I can’t help but feel happy and full of love when I hear that song.

So if you are on the hunt for “the song”, don’t sweat it, and don’t force it. More than likely it’ll find you, and when it does, you’ll know.

If you and your sweetheart have a song, tell me the story! I love hearing what your songs are and how it came to be yours!

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  1. D at Be You and Thrive

    December 16th, 2016 at 3:20 pm

    Such a heartfelt post! I'm certain that finding the 'perfect song' is so important to brides. And you've described the process beautifully. Perhaps it's not words we are really in need of for it to be "perfect", it's simply the heart and love behind it!

    Great Post!
    xoxo ~ D

  2. Randy and Ashley Durham

    December 17th, 2016 at 11:53 am

    Thats so awesome! Our song for our wedding was "Unchained Melody" because we just liked it … but really, our song has become "Little Things" by Brad Paisley even though we don't even listen to country music, because I'm 99% sure he wrote the song about us.😂

  3. Misty Christensen

    December 19th, 2016 at 12:40 am

    We don't have a "song" but we also didn't have a first dance because my hubby HAAAATES to dance. I think if I HAD to pick one, it would be our processional song– "You and I" by Ingrid Michealson.

  4. Jill

    December 20th, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    This is such a FUN post! I LOVE those 80s songs remixes that now become indie or acoustic/etc, and we found one to Heaven is a Place On Earth that we LOVED- so we used that! Had a good amount of drama without being too much for us!

  5. Sweet Lemon Photography

    December 20th, 2016 at 3:33 pm

    Love this! We ended up picking "I found you". It is a song about finding God…but it was SO perfect for us that I don't hear it that way! I hear about how I found my husband and he found me 🙂

  6. Holly Frazier

    December 29th, 2016 at 1:06 am

    This is so beautiful!! Love your story!!