When we got married, we didn’t have a song. Nothing fit. I asked my parents how they decided on their song and they said that the words just fit them, and it made them both feel loved. I asked friends how they got their songs. Some said that was the song on the radio during their first kiss, or a song that played in the restaurant where they got engaged, or a song they both loved.
A year later, we still didn’t have a song, but we wanted one desperately. Well, maybe I was the one that was weirdly obsessed with it, but Cameron was a little perplexed as well that we couldn’t find “our song.”
We listened to all sorts of love songs. “My Best Friend.” “Remember When.” “Forever and Ever, Amen.” “Keeper of the Stars.” “Someday.” All great songs. But none that spoke to both of us.
Cameron’s mom plays the violin, and while we were visiting for Christmas one year, she got out her violin and played for us. One of the songs she played was Ashokan Farewell, by Jay Ungar. It is beautiful! I was instantly in love. So when we got back home, the first thing I did was head to the internet to find it and play it.
We found it on Amazon and at the time it was the same price to get the full album of songs as it was to get that one song (go figure), so we bought the whole album and started playing it in the background.
A few songs in, Cameron and I both stopped and looked up. We’d never heard it before, but there playing from our computer speakers was our song. We’d found it!
“The Lover’s Waltz” has no words, and yet it expresses our emotions and love perfectly. Every time we dance together to that song, waltzing around the dance floor, it adds another layer of memories and meaning to the song.
To us the song is about love, about trust, about working together, about finding home in each other’s arms, about harmony, and about simplicity. It’s everything we want from our marriage, and everything we are striving for. I can’t help but feel happy and full of love when I hear that song.
So if you are on the hunt for “the song”, don’t sweat it, and don’t force it. More than likely it’ll find you, and when it does, you’ll know.
If you and your sweetheart have a song, tell me the story! I love hearing what your songs are and how it came to be yours!